Speak From Your Heart in Life & In Business

I had this conversation with a member of our Master Mind Group (We'll call him Sam). What started the conversation is that his employee (we'll call him John) deeply cares about what he does for a living but is hit and miss on his success rate.

John creates deep and meaningful relationships with kids through a 6-month Kid's Program aimed at students aged 5-17, and helps them through issues like low self-confidence, low self-esteem, lack of focus, lack of self-control, bullying, etc.). The program is amazing and has completely transformed shy, quiet, unruly, and/or hyper children into focused, self-empowered leaders in their age groups. These kids go from confused to completely confident and self-mastered. It's an amazing transformation to watch; the program itself is one of the most amazing things I've been blessed to witness. 

What Sam noticed is that when John is having a conversation with a parent, he's very good at giving them information about the program and saying all the right things... but most of them walk away without buying his program. There was something missing but he couldn't quite figure it out. 

Sam also noticed that when John speaks to the kids about how to blast through self-doubt, instilling leadership skills, giving his lectures, and speaking, the kids are not only completely involved, they hung onto every word John says. They watch John with complete attention, amazement, and they're sad when the lectures ends. They end the day excited to come back to learn more and more!

So the question became: Why do the parents rarely come back or sign the kids up for the program but, the kids in the program never want to leave?

This is what became apparent through our conversation: 

1. When John speaks to the parents, he's simply giving them information. There's no feeling behind what he says, although it's informative and educational. He's using his intellect and speaking from his throat chakra. He's listening with his ears and his intellect. 

2. When John speaks to the kids, he's speaking, teaching and listening from his heart. He's sending his heart energy out to the children so they feel he cares about them. They feel safe, and they feel high vibrational energy from John. They feel something familiar. 

This is the reason there is a disconnect with the parents but full cooperation and involvement from the kids. You see, we're all spiritual beings having a human experience and we are all connected. Our hearts are all connected, we have just forgotten this. We are reminded through "feeling" when we encounter someone who speaks through their heart with compassion and love. 

When we speak from our heart it reminds everyone listening, that we all come from a familiar place we call "Home" our Home in spirit. It reminds us through the feeling of our divine connection. It feels inviting, it feels good. Even if we don't all consciously "know or understand" this, it's familiar and welcoming. It reminds us of our Truth. It feels safe and it feels like love. 

So what changed once John started speaking to the parents from his heart instead of his throat and intellect? When John explained the program from his heart, the parents gained more interest. Although they didn't know the right questions to ask, they asked more questions. This way, when he talked about the program, he expressed the same feelings of love, care, concern and encouragement the kids got to experience. The program became more of a conversation with the parents instead of a presentation of information. They then felt safe enough to ask questions from their own hearts, and the clarification of questions got everyone on the same page. This heart-to-heart connection is very natural, and the conversations go much deeper and feel safe and supportive for all involved. 

The parents could feel the benefits the program could give their children simply by John teaching it with his caring and loving nature. The parents were much more interested, involved, and wanted to become part of the parent groups to assist the teachers. So, not only did nearly every parent who came in sign their child into the program, many of them also became volunteers and helped with large events and fundraisers. Advertising costs also decreased, and referrals increased dramatically because the parents talked more about the program their kids were in. They became fully invested and involved.

Sam and John were able to move the parents from interested spectators to fully-involved, harmonious community members.

So take these reminders with you as you navigate through life and business: 

• Speak from your heart when chatting with loved ones, co-workers and strangers. It allows conversations to be more meaningful and move into deeper spaces with safety and care. The benefit of speaking from your heart is harmony in your relationships, because you approach with compassion and sincerity. 

• Speak from your heart when you're talking to anyone about what you do and why you do it. When it's obvious that your heart is in what you do, you'll have the right people saying yes and the wrong people saying no, weeding out the people who don't need your services or the ones who aren't a good fit for you. 

• Listen with your heart because not everyone knows the right words to say or knows how to say what they really mean. Sometimes, they don't even know the questions to ask so they ask what they can put into words. When we listen with our heart we tend to fully understand the questions or ask better clarification questions, and answer them on a different level than with our intellect alone.

• Speak your Truth, but speak and listen from and with your heart, not from your throat. Use your intellect, but keep your heart at center.

• When we decide to make a business out of what we love to do, it's not longer in the "hobby" category. It falls into the exchange category. We exchange goods or services for economic security (or cheese or milk or flowers or....) because we have gifts that can help people, and those people gladly pay for our services. We are the help they're seeking and searching for.

And this becomes very apparent to them when we lead, speak, listen and respond from our hearts. 

To speak from your heart, all you have to do is pull your energy down from your head and throat and into your heart center. It might take some getting used to if you're in your head a lot. But the heart is a very natural space for you to hold your energy so it won't take long for you to master it. You'll feel the energy build in your chest and become more solid, pure and consistent as you do this more and more. It'll feel like a warm bath, a comfy and cozy space. It'll also bring you to a very present way of being. Once you pull your energy to your heart, use your imagination to see the words flowing from this heart space as you talk to others and have conversations. They'll feel your loving energy.

Listening from this heart-space is much the same, practice feeling what their trying to say instead of just listening to the words others use. One of my biggest lessons in life was when I took a others' words at face value. Until I met a completely overwhelmed client who couldn't put their desires, stress, concerns or problems into any helpful words or realistic sentences. When I tried responding to what they were saying with a solution, it failed every time. It wasn't until I learned to feel what they were really trying to say that I figured out how I could help them. Only then was my assistance successful. 

Warm regards & stay inspired! Until next time...

Lora 

p.s. Talk to yourself and listen to yourself from this heart-space too, you'd be surprised how often we leave ourselves out of the mix even though we are the #1 ingredient!